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How important is it to stay organized during divorce?

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On behalf of Laughlin & Company Lawyers Mediators posted in Division of Property on Tuesday, July 26, 2016.

While you don’t need to start color-coordinating your files or rush out for a few label makers, making a concerted effort to stay organized as you move through the divorce process can make it much easier and less stressful. Here are three tips to get you started.

1. Establish a central location for all divorce-related paperwork. If you have a home office, this is a good spot. If not, look for a flat surface where you won’t have to move things out of the way — your dining room table isn’t a good choice — and that’s close to a calendar and wherever you make most of your phone calls. Having everything in one place means that you can easily access any information your attorney needs without having to spend the day searching.

2. Document everything. Documentation is key to any legal situation, but it’s especially important in divorce cases when your personal and home life is bound to be in a bit of disarray. Get in the habit of keeping a journal where you can write down when you talk to your ex and the topic of conversation. This can also be a place to write down questions for your next meeting with your attorney so you don’t forget.

3. Get your own mailbox. Whether you or your ex is the one moving out, right now both of you are likely getting mail and other important documents delivered to the house. Getting a post office box can ensure that you have a way to communicate without worrying about your ex-intercepting anything. If you currently use a joint email account, you’ll want to establish your own immediately.

If you have questions about what you should be keeping track of, ask your lawyer. By being able to access and provide him or her with needed documentation, you can help make the process a little easier.

Source: Forbes, “Why Women Who Are Organized Often Do Better in Divorce,” Jeff Landers, accessed July 26, 2016

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Judge removes himself from divorce, citing parents’ attitudes

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On behalf of Laughlin & Company Lawyers Mediators posted in Child Custody on Thursday, July 21, 2016.

A British Columbia family court judge has ruled that one divorced couple needs to move on with a new judge. It seems the parents ended up back in court in 2013 to address the father’s wish to have the parenting time order modified. The order originally granted the mother the bulk of the time, and the father was asking for a more equal time split. However, this quickly went downhill with the parties criticizing the other’s parenting style and using manipulative and bullying tactics to try to get their way.

In the ruling, the judge indicated that he was a “known quantity” and that the progress of the proceedings had largely stalled because of this. In effect, the judge was saying that the situation was so high conflict and the two parties were locked against each other that it may take an entirely new judge to get the parties to pause and reevaluate their positions.

So what you can we learn from this example? The first takeaway is to do your best to make the divorce — and any proceedings that take place after the final decree — as low conflict as possible. Doing so will save both you, your ex and your children a great deal of stress and emotional upheaval.

The second is that sometimes those going through a divorce are too involved in the situation to recognize when things are getting out of control. Having a lawyer help you through the process can be a good way to have an objective third-party ensure you are focusing on resolving issues.

Source: CBC News, “Judge breaks up with couple in high conflict divorce,” Jason Proctor, July 17, 2016

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What if my ex doesn’t want to attend mediation?

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On behalf of Laughlin & Company Lawyers Mediators posted in Divorce Mediation on Wednesday, July 13, 2016.

Mediation can be an excellent way to expedite the divorce process and make it less stressful for everyone involved. Even after the divorce is finalized, mediation can help you and your ex-avoids the courts when you want to make changes to the custody or parenting schedule. However, mediation only works when both people attend, and if your ex-doesn’t want to, you may wonder if there’s anything you can do.

In many cases, the answer will be no. If your ex-doesn’t want to participate in mediation, your only option may be to go through a trial in the family courts. However, it may be worth talking to your ex and trying to explain how mediation may benefit them. It’s less costly and quicker than a full trial, for example.

If this doesn’t work, there is one situation in which a party may be compelled by the courts to participate in mediation: if you have started a case with the Supreme Court. In these circumstances, you can have your lawyer serve your ex with a Notice to Mediate.

As long as you serve the paperwork in the proper time frame, your ex will be compelled to comply unless there has already been an attempt at mediation, there is a protection order in play, the mediator doesn’t believe mediation will be helpful, or the court rules that your ex is exempt from participating.

If you think mediation may help you and your ex-resolve your differences, the first step is to talk to a family lawyer. After that, you will be better informed and prepared to move forward.

Source: Legal Services Society, “Mediation,” accessed July 13, 2016

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Can a marriage contract address child support?

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On behalf of Laughlin & Company Lawyers Mediators posted in High-Asset Divorce on Friday, July 8, 2016.

A marriage contract is a document that both parties sign before getting married, and it can address many topics, such as conduct within the marriage, what is to be done with assets already owned, and what happens with assets gained during the marriage. In most cases, the focus of the contract is on the financial side of things, as people want to protect their own interests so that a court ruling doesn’t force them to turn over assets in the event of a divorce.

One of the biggest financial impacts of a divorce, though, is child support. It is typically not legal to put any provisions for this in a marriage contract. The spouse expecting to get custody and payments cannot stipulate how much will be paid, and the other spouse cannot say that he or she will pay nothing.

Instead, this still has to be decided by the court. Other assets can be divided according to the contract.

The reasoning here is that the child is not actually participating in the signing of this contract at the time of marriage, and the child is the one mainly impacted by these payments. The parent does not have the right to sign away money that was intended for that child, as it would not be fair and could be detrimental to the child’s health and well-being. Any contracts containing such language may be thrown out, or that portion at least may not be used.

When setting up a marriage contract to protect assets, always make sure you know what it can legally cover and what has to be left up to the court in British Columbia.

Source: Advisor.ca, “Marriage Contracts Protect Assets,” Margaret O’Sullivan, accessed July 08, 2016

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