Divorce mediation can be an invaluable tool for those who want to make the process of ending their relationships as quick and painless as possible. However, mediation is also a rather fragile process, and it doesn’t take much for one party to feel like the other is being too adversarial for it to work. Here are a few of the things to avoid when you are working through a divorce mediation.

One of the biggest things to avoid is dating. While you may want to focus on moving on quickly, there are often still a lot of feelings involved with couples who are divorcing. If your soon-to-be ex-finds out that you are already romantically involved with someone or actively looking for a new partner, there could be enough of a flare up in the anger and resentment to stall or put a complete stop to your mediation negotiations.

It’s also a good idea to avoid airing your divorce on any social media. While you’re at it, you’ll also want to avoid snooping on what your ex is doing too. Social media pages are fair game if the mediation doesn’t work out and the case ends up going to trial. Keeping track of what your ex is saying or doing makes it harder for you to be objective in the mediation process.

It’s best to go over what you should avoid and what is OK during the mediation with your lawyer. Having this conversation early on in the process makes it easier for you to be able to give mediation your best effort.

Source: Forbes, “Divorcing Women: Don’t Make These Five Costly Mistakes,” accessed Feb. 12, 2016

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The holidays are an exciting time for young and old alike as the magic of the season bring the year to an end. This is usually a time for family traditions and seasonal get-togethers, but if you and your ex-are divorced, it can make figuring out how to handle the holidays with children challenging. Children can often feel caught between their parents during this time, but taking a few simple steps can help you navigate co-parenting the holidays with ease.

Almost all couples who are divorced with children have some type of formal schedule for parenting time. This is usually done to ensure the children get enough access to both parents, and it also helps decrease communication issues and conflict between the parents as well.

However, the holidays are a time when you may want to be more flexible if your situation allows for it. If you are on good terms with your ex, it might make sense to talk about how you want to handle the holidays and any special gatherings and make a parenting schedule that best fits that plan. As always, try to put this in writing for easy reference for both sides.

It’s also important to remember that the focus should continue to remain on the children. If you want your children to accompany you to your employer’s annual Christmas party but they’d rather go pick out a tree with your ex, it might be best to let the children pick. It’s important during this season to always pause and honestly evaluate your decisions to ensure they are in the best interests of the children.

Source: The Huffington Post Canada, “3 Tips For Creating Joyful Holidays As Co-Parents,” Anna Giannone, accessed Nov. 30, 2015

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